Tips for a Good Visit with Seniors

Are you unsure about what to say or do when you visit an aging loved one?

Many people shorten their visits to assisted living communities, long-term care homes and other places because they fear awkward moments. However, we want you to know that you shouldn’t fear!

The majority of older people suffer from isolation and loneliness; in our day, it has even been called an epidemic. Statistics Canada has predicted that between 2015 and 2012, the number of Canadians aged 65 and older with outnumber those 14 and under, meaning fewer and fewer children and grandchdilren, to take care of, accompany and visit aging loved ones. That means that there is a great need for people who can offer a good visit to an aging loved ones.

In truth, our aging loved ones are much more comfortable than we might assume with awkward moments, or stilted conversation. When you think about it, our older adults are possibly the least judgmental population in the world, having lived through many more awkward moments than we ever have.

Having a good visit is one of the most caring things you can do for an aging loved one, and here are some tips to make that happen:

Don’t be afraid to keep it brief.

Many older adults would prefer a pleasant half hour visit with conversation and interaction over an hour of silence - though don't underestimate the value of simple company.

Come prepared with a few ways to springboard into conversation.

• Encourage storytelling.
• Start with a comment on your own life.
• Bring a prop – whether it be a photo, a book, or an item to examine.

 Make necessary adjustments to your communication style.

In 2012, the Gerontological Society of America mapped out evidence-based communication guidelines for health professionals who work with older adults:

• Raise your voice slightly if needed… but don't shout, which can actually be even harder to hear.
• Turn off the radio or other background noise.
• Keep your faces at about the same level and don’t cover your face with your hands. Many people rely on lip reading to help follow a conversation - plus, being face-to-face is just polite!
• Pay attention to your nonverbal communication. Fidgeting and checking your phone loudly proclaims that you'd rather be someplace else. Turn off the electronics and the noises in your head and be present.

 Make use of these tips, and make your loved one's day with a brief, fun and thoughtful visit!

- Bethany Mortelliti, Administrative Assistant in Marketing and Communication